I just wanted to give a shout out to Laura Scott, who just put out this very intelligent and thought provoking perspective of couples who have made the decision NOT to have children. Two is Enough: A Couple’s Guide to Living Childless by Choice, is really a statement that just because couples have chosen not to have children, they are not selfish or uncaring (which is what society tends to teach).
My wife Diana and I had felt strongly about explaining our point of view regarding this issue, and we sought other couples who feel as we do. That’s when we came across Laura Scott, who set out to do a documentary on the subject and asked us to be interviewed for the project. It was a marvelous opportunity for us to say that, we love each other, and we also can love all people of the world with out personally creating more. We believe that plenty are being created everyday, and we could not even really understand why some people are so driven; to the point of feeling that their life would not be complete unless they have children.
We respect people who have that drive. We also don’t believe that the human race is in any danger of extinction due to a lack of reproduction. We have observed so many friends and relatives, who had their children, then, all they could talk about for the better part of 20 years is how they couldn’t wait until the kids got out of the house so that they could enjoy their time together. We wanted to have that right away, we didn’t want to have to wait 20 years so that we could go travel and experience life without the kids. We also did not have any need to live vicariously through miniature clones of ourselves.
Anyhow, it’s an interesting perspective, I know that for some couples, especially married couples who have made the conscious decision not to have children, it can feel a bit lonely. My advice is to reach out and research it on the internet, and find others out there who feel the same way. And, never, never succumb to pressure from family or friends that you should have children if you truly do not want them. Live for yourself, do what feels good, and your life will unfold just as it was meant to.
Two is Enough - A Couple's Guide to Living Childless by Choice
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